Dear E. Jean: I’m 22 and have been dating a famous local businessman for a year and a half. He’s 42 and my first serious boyfriend, so I’m very attached. But we’ve had our ups and downs. First: He was afraid to publicly announce he was seeing a girl as young as I am so soon after his divorce. (This insulted me, but I got over it.) Second: He dumped me during a business “crisis” with a two-line e-mail! Then when he tried to win me back, I stopped him cold in his tracks and left for Scotland.
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He flew to Scotland and proposed in the most romantic way with a huge five-carat diamond! I said yes, though I thought the ring looked slightly wrong somehow. He makes over $750,000 a year, so I was worried he’d been ripped off by some shady jewelry store. When I returned to L.A., I found out from my jeweler that the ring was a FAKE! It was humiliating. I’d already shown it to family, friends—everyone!
First he tried to lie about it, then he said he couldn’t afford the $100,000 ring he really wanted to get me, so he’d had a copy made. The next day he took me to the store and bought me a nice ring for $4,700—two months’ salary for a 23-year-old guy. Whatever. He says he loves me. I still think it’s a crappy thing to do. So do I stay engaged or not? —Semi-Bride-to-Be
Semi, my girl: Naw. Mr. Schmaltzy Sham is too shady, too ditzy, and too indigent to support a new wife. Since he lacked the scones to publicly acknowledge you, it will no doubt come as a relief when you ditch him.
P.S.: If this big faker makes $750,000 a year, hell, I’ll buy you a ring. I suspect the poor schlub doesn’t have a brain cell left in his head after his divorce (nor a buck in his wallet). Move on!
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